Where are we in this relationship? What is our next step?

Step One: Where is this relationship going?

Facing Ahead is a quiz for couples considering a long-term commitment like marriage. The questions are meant to bring up topics for conversation that will help these couples understand what some of the large issues that face lifelong relationships can be, and how they might approach them.

There are no “right” or “wrong” answers in this quiz; it is meant to compare the two individual responses with each other, to show areas of agreement and areas that may need to be discussed or dealt with before a commitment like marriage is considered. Here is the link to Facing Ahead.

Step Two: If you both agree you are seriously thinking about marriage.

Now is the time to start using the For Better & For Ever ® workbooks to answer questions and dialogue with your partner about topics/issues that you may not think to talk about. For example, if/when you marry, How much money do you think either of you should be able to spend without first checking it out with your spouse?

Step Three: If you are already engaged to be married.

Engaged couples can use For Better & For Ever ® as a marriage preparation program (which more and more churches are making a requirement). Even if your pastor is not already familiar with For Better & For Ever ®, he is likely to be impressed that you are wanting to use it because it is more comprehensive than most of the programs currently in use. For Better & For Ever ® is specifically designed to help couples address questions/topics that every couple needs to deal with before making a lifelong commitment to one another. Remember this is the purpose of being engaged, i.e. it is supposed to be a time of putting “all your cards” on the table so that you can begin your marriage with “no secrets” and “no hidden agendas.” The For Better & For Ever ® workbooks offer you hundreds of questions and most couples say that many of them are questions they never talked about before reading the books. For Better & For Ever ® helps couples prepare for Christian marriage (but it also takes into account that one of you may not be a member of the Christian tradition). There is a Catholic edition, a Protestant edition and a Covenant edition. The Covenant edition is a “secular” edition for those who are not members of any Christian denomination or may have no belief in a personal God, but are wanting to enter a marriage of lifelong commitment to one another.

If you are already married.

Many therapists and marriage counselors direct their clients to use For Better & For Ever ® to identify questions/topics that they need to deal with and then learn the communication/relationship skills that they did not learn to use effectively before (and during) their marriage. Also some married couples discover For Better & For Ever ® on their own, and use it for personal enrichment of their marriage.

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